‘There’s this obsession I have. It’s probably really unhealthy, but I probably don’t care. I like to light candles and test how long my finger can stay over the flame. I used to start off really slow. I would move my finger through the flame quickly at first then slowly ease my way up to keeping it there. One time, I held my finger there too long and I sat there and watched it blister. It was beautiful, so I kept it there. Now I have a scar because I kept picking at the scab. I figured I wouldn’t be able to ever keep my finger over the flame that long again unless I did serious nerve damage. So now, I always use that finger because there is a scar and I don’t feel anything. I wish everything was that way.’ I decided that was a good ice breaker. If he didn’t like that about me, I could leave without looking back.